Brian Long: Interpersonal Communication
Thursday, November 18, 2010
10 Emotional Intelligences
My job can also be very high stress because of the various responsibilities that I have, so the advice to try and find time to relax in the heat of a moment of stress was a very helpful suggestion that I plan to try and use in the work environment. Hopefully, with this advice and these tips I’ll be able to find time to relax for myself and create a more positive and stress-free for myself.
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Interpersonal Communication and Conflict
As I have gotten older and been given more responsibilities, I’ve realized that I can’t realistically accommodate the needs of all people, so I have tried to incorporate the defusing technique when I find myself in some kind of conflict with someone else. I have noticed that when most people are angry they will be completely unreasonable in their arguments and accusations, so it is best to get them to calm themselves down a little bit in order to have a conversation that will lead to a resolution of conflict rather than cause more problems. I also try and use elements of the empathy technique because even though I am more willing to take on a conflict if necessary, I would prefer to come up with a method that will suitably satisfy both sides of the conflict.
I think that my use of the defusing technique is one of the healthier options that a person can use in conflict because it will allow for an easier conversation where both parties are speaking to each other in a calm and civilized manner. However, I do think that the empathy method can sometimes be an unhealthy one for people, myself included. If you show too much empathy, you can easily be walked all over by the opposing party or your empathy could get the better of you which will leave you overwhelmed by someone else’s problem.
Speaking personally, I have three younger siblings so I have found myself in the middle of more conflicts than I could possibly begin to discuss here. Often, these are serial conflicts that have come up between us over and over again about chores around the house or even about who is going to use our car and when. My brother is a lot more stubborn than I am so I usually let him have what he wants, not because he’s right but because I have other things to do with my day then argue with him.
Self Disclosure and Social Networking
When I first opened my Facebook account, I was very comfortable with disclosing a great deal of information about myself. My page included my email address, location, relationship status, and pretty lengthy entries as to my individual interests. It wasn’t until I got to college that I began to realize this was a bad idea, mainly because of the fact that I would soon be student teaching. In one of my sophomore year student teaching classes we were told a bunch of horror stories of teachers who had been reprimanded, or in some cases fired, due to content that they had put on their Facebook pages which were discovered by either parents or students. I was also advised to set my profile to private after being hired as a tour guide, since I was now representing the school. Needless to say, my profile was changed to private almost immediately. As time went on, I began to think that it was stupid for me to have all of this information about myself readily available to so many people so I immediately began to delete much of the information I had on my page. I still have a few things up, but for the most part it is things that only people close to me would understand. For example, I have my political views listed as “save the clock tower;” a reference to the film “Back to the Future.”
When I read articles about how much self-disclosure on the internet can interfere with a person’s private life, it makes me thankful that I have drastically changed my point of view on disclosing my own information online. Hopefully, as these technologies become even more widely used, we will be able to develop ways to properly safeguard young people against the dangers that the internet leaves open to everyone.
Monday, October 25, 2010
Listening Styles
I see myself as a People-oriented listener. Growing up, I was always a big reader and I think that contributed to my love of stories, regardless of where they come from. To me, the stories of others have always been much more fascinating to me than talking about my own personal experiences. I don’t know if it would be the best listening approach in all situations, but I think being a People-oriented listener, even to a small degree, can be helpful to create a friendly conversational environment. I often move out of this primary approach while giving tours to family who are visiting Rider’s campus. I become a Time-oriented speaker in those situations to ensure that I can give my tour group all of the necessary information about Rider in the time it takes to tour the campus.
Monday, October 11, 2010
Technology and Interpersonal Communication
I think the biggest aspect of my personality I try to put forth with the signaling theory is my sense of humor. Most of my comments to friends are jokes about something I overheard or a comment about something they have said to me.
My relationship with social networking is an odd one, I don't really poke people blog, I mostly just use it as a convenient way to keep in touch with friends and family.
Adaption Theory
Conversation 2- For this conversation I stepped into the role of the dreaded low talker. As I moved closer to my friend they responded by backing away. Eventually, they just gave up and ended the conversation rather than ask me to stop moving closer. It was interesting to see the difference between the two conversations in that one friend asked me to what I was looking at while another friend simply left the conversation rather than ask me to stop moving closer.
Conversation 3- For my last conversation I tried half listening and one-upping my friend. They eventually got tired of talking to me and also left the conversation.